I recently had a client I was coaching and after we conquered her work fears she said that her next goal was to get back into a relationship. Of course, no one who wants a relationship truly wants just anyone; they want Mr. or Ms. Right! And most of us know in our hearts exactly what that means, when someone asks we unfurl that dreaded “List”!
If you are like most people, you probably have a “list” of what you are looking for in your ideal mate or you might be looking for that special someone who “completes you.” In the process, you might be bringing in the same “type” of person who you think is perfect for you however the solution to successfully finding the right mate for you may lie in asking the question, “What type am I?”
So where do you start? Before you put on your Friday night best or log back on to your favorite hook-up website let’s take a minute to look and feel good about the most important person in your next relationship, YOU! It is absolutely true that we attract what and who we are in to our lives. When it comes to bringing in our friendships and romantic relations what we radiate is something that I call, “The Law of Attractive.”
The Law of Attractive is the true beauty that can’t be painted on or pumped up in the gym, instead it is the kind of amazing that when you have the confidence to let it shine, it will bring people in to your life who compliment you not complete you.
Here are some ways to get started: – Make your list. Make a note of all the attributes you would find important in a long-term or forever type relationship. Be sure to list more than just physical qualities like dark hair and full lips by making note of the values that you find important such as; honesty, integrity, loyalty, and compassion, which will play a much bigger role in the long-term success of your partnership. – Check it twice. Before you start on your scavenger hunt for love, check the list once for yourself first. If there are areas that you find important in someone else take a moment to think if you have those qualities. If you don’t, there is nothing wrong with taking some time to work on you before diving into a relationship. – Pay close attention to who is naughty and who is nice. Often we don’t stick to our list out of fear of rejection or we can get confused by a physical connection that we mistake for love while alarms are going off inside us that tell us to run. Trust your gut here and know that when the time is right for you and that special someone it will work out. While there may not be a club, church, or online dating site to find true love there is one place that holds the magic of cupid’s arrow, your heart. Honor it and you will be fully capable of loving someone else. Michelle