For many of us what is holding us back from feeling beautiful has nothing to do with what’s actually in the mirror, it’s how we feel about ourselves. And how we feel about ourselves can be a product of negative self-talk that we listen to that tells us, “I’m not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or rich enough too!” The question is; where does this self-talk come from?
While it could be from someone outside of ourselves who we allowed to get into our heads, it is more commonly coming from our own minds as part of what is now being thought of as the “comparison trap.” The comparison trap stems from years of programming from a variety of places that might include images we see in the media, our upbringing, friends or family members. It is debilitating to base our own self-worth on others rather than the strengths within ourselves.
As a celebrity makeup artist and stylist who has worked on thousands of photo shoots I know the truth about what goes into creating the facade of perfection of that “perfect” image.
You see, the models don’t even look like the images we see in the media. First, they go through hours of makeup and hair, get placed under perfect lighting and then the images are digitally enhanced. The same goes for TV and Film. Sadly, not everyone is privy to that emotionally soothing knowledge and it’s sad.
How are we ever going to feel good about our lives, families, jobs, our look or our bodies if we are comparing ourselves to other people?
Today, I have the honor of introducing you to my incredible friend, Emme, who is a powerful example of the beauty and strength it takes to rise above this “programming” we are all fighting.
You may know her from magazines, as a women’s advocate for positive body image and self-esteem, author, and sought-after national lecturer or appearances on Oprah, the Today Show, CNN and many more. She did all that and was voted one of People magazines most “beautiful people” and she did all being true to who she is as a “plus-size” model!
Throughout her life and career she has learned many lessons about what beauty should mean to each of us and when it comes down to it, what is truly important and how to focus on that.
Get beauty and anti-aging tips and secrets to naturally look younger from a celebrity make-up artist.